How to Finally Overcome Procrastination in Language Learning
5 Mindful Tips for Lasting Progress
If you're reading this, chances are you're passionate about learning a new language but struggle with procrastination. You're not alone. Many language learners find themselves trapped in the cycle of delaying their language practice and feeling frustrated by their lack of progress.
In this post, we’ll explore the underlying causes of procrastination, particularly the role of perfectionism, and how incorporating mindfulness into your language learning journey can transform your approach, so you can overcome procrastination and cultivate lasting progress.
So, let's dive in!
It’s Monday morning and as every Monday morning I love setting goals and intentions for myself.
I write down my priorities, what needs my attention, what has to be done.
And it usually goes something like this :
Work : appointments & priorities.
Homeschooling week. (Yes, I homeschool).
Family survival : groceries, doctors, cleaning, etc.
Well-being : some time at the gym, reading, unwinding.
Oh right, and also languages. Yeah that would be nice.
Why languages go last on my list is not because I don’t care, I really do and enjoy them. But you see, I’m driven by my sense of duty and I have real difficulties giving time to myself if I haven’t first tackled the “important” stuff.
Another reason is that I have this image of what a language learning session should be like : at least 2 hours to myself, with my pretty notebooks, my stickers, my colorful pens. I always wait for that perfect moment when finally my duties will be finished, my kids and husband will quietly play and leave me alone for a few hours so I can do my beloved language practice.
And guess what? That never happens, of course.
So I keep on waiting… sometimes for months, when really, I could have found a million ways to learn in the meantime if I hadn’t fallen into the trap of perfectionism and procrastination.
Here’s how you can avoid making that same mistake.
Understanding Procrastination
We know it well when it comes to work, but it’s not the only area where procrastination slows us down.
In fact, procrastination is a common challenge that affects language learners of all levels. It manifests as the tendency we have to delay or avoid language learning tasks, despite knowing the importance of consistent practice.
Oftentimes, procrastination hides and takes the form of “passive” exposure. That happens when learners focus on tasks that are not going to bring results but that keep them thinking they’re somehow making progress.
Like buying a course, but not taking it.
Or showing up to conversation classes but not doing anything in between sessions.
Or “learning new words and expressions” by scrolling on Instagram.
These actions give us instant gratification, a release of dopamine that makes us feel accomplished. Even though we haven’t accomplished anything.
Procrastination also takes the shape of “I’ll do it later, once…”
I’ll do it later, once I’ve finished with the housework.
I’ll do it later, once the kids are in bed (or in school).
I’ll do it later, once this stressful project is over at work.
I’ll do it later, once the holidays are over.
This is based on the wrong belief that “later” is a better time than now.
We keep dreaming of a future where things will be perfect, or at least much better. When we imagine what the future can be like, we imagine a world of possibilities, without worry, stress, in which the responsibilities and hindrances of life have magically disappeared.
And by doing that, we deprive ourselves of the single most powerful moment: the imperfect present.
Why does it happen? One of the key underlying factors is perfectionism.
The Perfectionism Trap
While many language learners don't aim for perfection, they often find themselves trapped in the perfectionism mindset.
Confusing? Let's clear things up.
Perfectionism is the belief that anything less than perfection is unacceptable. It sets unrealistic expectations, instills fear of failure, and creates an incessant need for validation.
For example, imagine watching a YouTube video on language learning tips. The video creator, likely a polyglot who is single, showcases their extensive language repertoire, daily language learning routine, and beautifully organized bullet journals.
Honestly, that's why I stopped watching such videos on language learning! They made me wish I could be more like those individuals and less like myself. They made me yearn for a simpler life with more personal time, which doesn't align with the choices I've made as a homeschooling mom and entrepreneur.
There's nothing inherently wrong with these videos, of course. They can be inspiring and motivational for many. However, they can also foster comparison. When your own life doesn't measure up, you might believe that something is wrong with you and feel incapable of achieving your goals because you can't do things the way "they" can.
Another way that perfectionism subtly infiltrates our minds as language learners is through our attitude toward mistakes. If you've been learning languages for a while, you logically understand that making mistakes is part of the learning process. You know that making errors is inevitable and that they provide valuable opportunities for growth.
The challenge arises when you find yourself repeatedly making the same simple mistakes. These are mistakes you could easily correct on your own, yet they persistently reappear. At times, you may even notice a regression in your language skills despite your continued learning and efforts. While this is perfectly normal, it can be challenging to maintain a positive self-image and stay motivated to engage in learning activities that bring these errors to the forefront.
As a consequence, you’ll find yourself avoiding practicing speaking or writing in French out of fear of making mistakes and “butchering” the language.
Why are we perfectionists?
Perfectionism can stem from various psychological factors.
The most prominent one as a language learner is how our relationship to learning is often affected by our past negative experiences in school, where comparison with others was systematic, leading to self-doubt and an excessive focus on avoiding errors at all costs, yet failing to do so.
I personally vividly remember the impact of such experiences during my own language learning journey. In high school, our English teacher would test us every Friday, creating a tense atmosphere that permeated her classes throughout the week.
It felt like we were constantly in survival mode, anticipating the challenges that awaited us the following Monday, when she would return our graded papers, calling out each student's name from the one with the highest marks to the one with the lowest.
As we sat in silence, the room filled with a mix of anticipation, anxiety, and sweat. We prayed for our names to be called quickly, desperately wanting to avoid the potential embarrassment.
Unfortunately, this experience is not unique. Many language learners have encountered similar situations, where the emphasis is placed more on performance or lack thereof than on fostering growth and learning.
Te fear of making mistakes creates an unattainable standard, which hinders progress and perpetuates the cycle of procrastination, because of course, this relentless pursuit of flawlessness not only puts immense pressure on us but also robs us of the joy and freedom that comes with authentic expression.
It is therefore crucial to recognize and challenge these perfectionistic beliefs if we are ever to overcome procrastination with our language learning activities and goals.
Embracing a growth mindset, which focuses on progress rather than perfection, allows learners to view mistakes as valuable learning opportunities.
Shifting the focus from external validation to internal motivation helps individuals find fulfillment in their own language learning journey, rather than constantly seeking approval from others.
Cultivating self-compassion and embracing a mindful approach to language learning encourages you to be present in the learning process, to accept your imperfections, and to show kindness towards yourself.
Mindfulness as a Solution
Incorporating mindfulness into your language learning journey can help you break free from procrastination and perfectionism.
What’s mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the current moment, without judgment. It cultivates self-awareness, compassion, and acceptance, which are essential in overcoming life challenges, and by extension language learning challenges as well.
Tip 1: Embrace Imperfection
Language learning is a journey, and it's important to focus on progress rather than perfection. In order to help you shift your perspective and mindset, it’s helpful to develop a habit of celebrating your efforts rather than your results.
For example, imagine you're having a conversation in French with a native speaker, and you stumble over a word or struggle to find the right phrase. Instead of getting frustrated or embarrassed, remind yourself that it's okay to make mistakes. Take a deep breath, laugh it off, and continue the conversation with curiosity and openness. And give yourself a high five and a wink in the mirror for showing up for yourself despite the fear of being ridiculous.
Yes, speaking out loud in front of “real people” in a language you don’t master is extremely vulnerable.
By embracing imperfection and celebrating your courage, you create a supportive environment for yourself to learn and improve.
Tip 2: Set Realistic Goals
Break down your language learning goals into manageable and realistic tasks.
Setting smaller, achievable goals reduces overwhelm and helps you stay motivated.
When goals are too broad or vague, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and lose focus. By breaking them down into smaller steps, you create a clear roadmap for your progress.
For instance, if your goal is to improve your listening skills, instead of simply stating "I want to understand native speakers," break it down into specific tasks like "I will listen to a French podcast for 15 minutes every day" or "I will watch one French movie with subtitles per week."
These specific and achievable goals provide a sense of direction and accomplishment, keeping you motivated along the way.
And remember: the success of your practice isn’t based on how much you understood or how flawless your journal entry ways - it’s based on the effort of showing up despite the imperfection of the present moment!
Tip 3: Cultivate Mindful Awareness
Developing mindful awareness is another tool to overcoming procrastination and perfectionism.
Take the time to observe your thoughts, emotions, and patterns of behavior when it comes to language learning.
Notice any self-critical or negative thoughts that arise and replace them with self-compassion and understanding.
Practice self-reflection by journaling about your language learning experiences. Write about your challenges, achievements, and any obstacles you encounter.
By bringing awareness to your thoughts and emotions, you can identify patterns of procrastination or perfectionism and consciously choose to shift your mindset.
For example, if you notice yourself avoiding speaking practice because of fear of making mistakes, pause and reflect on the underlying reasons.
Are you striving for perfection? Where does that come from? Who wanted you to be perfect when you were a child? How is that non-relevant anymore?
Are you worried about being judged? What’s your earliest memory of being judged for making mistakes or sounding silly? How can you reassure yourself now and allow yourself to be joyful and care-free in your authentic and imperfect self-expression?
By recognizing these patterns, you can consciously choose to let go of perfectionism and approach your language learning with self-compassion and acceptance.
Tip 4: Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself throughout your language learning journey.
Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same care, understanding, and support that you would offer to a close friend.
Instead of harshly criticizing yourself for not meeting your own expectations, offer yourself words of encouragement and support.
For instance, if you're struggling to understand a complex grammar rule, rather than berating yourself for not getting it right away, remind yourself that learning takes time and effort.
Offer yourself words of reassurance, such as "I am making progress" or "I am doing my best." Self-compassion helps create a nurturing and positive environment that fosters growth and motivates you to continue learning.
Tip 5: Create Mindful Language Learning Rituals
Incorporate mindfulness practices into your language learning routine.
Start each session with a few moments of focused breathing or meditation to center yourself. Engage in activities that promote mindfulness, such as journaling in the target language or listening to guided mindfulness exercises in French.
By integrating mindfulness into your learning rituals, you establish a connection between self-awareness and language practice.
For example, before starting your daily language practice, take a few minutes to sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on your breath. Allow yourself to arrive fully in the present moment, letting go of any distractions or worries.
This mindful transition sets the tone for your practice and creates a sense of calm and intention.
And it’s also super yummy for your brain!
Conclusion
By incorporating mindfulness into your practice, you can break free from the limitations of procrastination and perfectionism.
Embrace imperfection, set realistic goals, cultivate mindful awareness, practice self-compassion, and create mindful language learning rituals.
By implementing these five mindful tips, you will transform your language learning journey and experience lasting progress.
Remember, language learning is not just about acquiring new words and grammar structures. It's about connecting with others, expressing yourself authentically, and embracing new cultures.
By infusing mindfulness into your language learning, you can deepen your connection to the language, enhance your communication skills, and nurture personal growth.
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